Identify and break negative thought patterns, Susan had had a tough year, um, her work responsibilities
had greatly increased and around the same time she discovered a profound betrayal in her marriage.
As a result, her sleep had been bought for many months and she now felt overwhelmed and depressed.
And her recent performance review meeting, Susan was crushed to hear that her boss thought her performance
was slipping.
She talked about it with her friend Ganti over their lunch break and was embarrassed when she began
crying.
My home life is a mess.
I'm failing at work.
I just feel totally inept, Susan said.
As they talked about it, Kathy helped Susan consider aspects of the situation she hadn't considered.
For example, she reminded Susan that she had a greater work responsibilities because she was so well
regarded in her job and had been promoted accordingly.
This conversation helped Susan gain a fresh perspective that boosted her mood.
And this section I invited you to be like Susan friend.
But to yourself, you can do this by really listening to what you're telling yourself, which will give
you a chance to catch lies and half truths that have powerful effects on your emotions.
It's much easier to spot the errors in someone else's thinking that in our own, if the roles had been
reversed, Susan would have had no problem pointing out how much better Kathy was doing than she thought.
We tend to have blind spots with our own thinking, so I will introduce a structured approach to monitoring
and challenging our negative thoughts buttons.